So yesterday, I FINALLY spoke with our lawyer. Turns out, he had been catching up on details and had intended to call the birthmom later that day. Of course, my phone may have jump-started him a bit. Anyway, he said it was fine for us to call her to reassure her, but he wanted to speak with her first. He said he'd call me back later yesterday or this morning to let me know how that conversation went, and then I was free to give her a call. I haven't heard from him yet.
Have I mentioned that I'm not so good with the patience thing?